Hidden Truth

Do you ever feel that your spiritual tank is running on empty?  That your life has spiraled out of control? That nothing has gone according to plan? When we allow our inner child to run our life, it’s an overwhelming emotionally disaster!  It’s when you wake up feeling listless, with that nagging sense of being unfulfilled.  It’s wondering if you’ve wasted that part of you that could have made the world a better place.  It’s remembering each and every time that someone or something has come between you and your goals and it’s wanting to find someone other than yourself to blame.  It’s feeling as though, that no matter how hard that you’ve tried, that those efforts have been in vain and that you’ve achieved nothing of real value. That land of emptiness is dark, angry, cold and so very lonely. Personally, I don’t like who I become when I go there (throwing myself into my work, becoming obsessively busy, then irritable because in the end, the empty void’s still there).  Once we become adults, do we shift our identity?  Is there a separation, from our inner child and who we are as adults? In reality aren’t we are our entire consciousness?  When it comes to healing, is there space between distance and time?  Deep down, are we all still that little boy or girl who just wants love, understanding, protection and security?  At the end there’s a great meditation, if you would like to write a post, please contact me and congrats to Maria who won the tarot reading contest for this month.

Have you repressed and or abandoned your inner child?

Do negative patterns stop you from expressing your true divine nature?  Do you regularly reject yourself, feel inadequate, undeserving of love and do you experience those moments when you feel “empty” and alone inside?  Each time that we choose to negatively judge ourselves, we’re abandoning our inner child. Having an inner abandoned child could manifest in a feeling of lack or a need of wanting but having no idea of what it is that would make you happy.  Unhealthy coping mechanisms such as over-eating, eating disorders, chemical addictions, sexual addiction, and other self harming behaviors are all symptoms of not getting your needs met as a child. Psychology has determined that once we become adults, our inner child is responsible for our ability to experience self acceptance, joy, and an overall sense of well being.

Childhood is meant for learning through life experiences, it doesn’t matter how perfect that your parents were, getting through some of those lessons almost always involves some form of heart ache. It’s usually smaller incidences in which we felt deprived on some level that sets us up for negative thinking, belief and behavior patterns all throughout our lives. Can you pinpoint situations in your adult life where you’ve overreacted due to an intense overwhelming negative emotional response?  If your needs were neglected as a child, you could find yourself getting over the top agitated when you feel that you haven’t received the customer service that you paid for.  If you grew up having too much responsibility, you might cater to others in your life before taking care of yourself, resenting it the entire time.  If your parents were emotionally absent, there maybe times when you want to rip your hair out due to the hurtful frustrating sense that absolutely no one understands you or what you’re going through.

Resolving Childhood Wounds

As adults, it’s important to own our responsibility for our own emotions, even the repressed ones that have a not so funny way of resurfacing when we least expect them.  It’s also completely within our capability to heal ourselves. Successful relationships, as the one with yourself, takes hard work, forgiveness, compassion and patience.  As adults, our behavioral patterns are a result of that strong foundation that was built in childhood, it takes extra resolve to discover the belief that leads to the behavior and to then challenge and change that belief.

An old belief is like an old shoe.  We so value its comfort that we fail to notice the hole in it.  ~Robert Brault

Make a timeline of your childhood experiences that felt negative

*If your childhood included sexual, physical or extreme emotional abuse, please seek professional counselling.

Start with your earliest memory of an incident that was emotionally painful and don’t stop until you get to age 18.  Write down as many details that you can remember about the event, who, why, when, what and how.  You may find it helpful to look at old pictures of yourself or to contact siblings and old friends to help jog your memories. If you find yourself getting emotional that’s excellent because it means that you’re getting in touch with your inner child and giving them the validation that they’ve been needing.  This is the hard work that’s going to lead to personal growth and future successes.

Next, write a timeline of your adult years to date.  Include your accomplishments and also any situations, relationships and or goals that have, in some way, disappointed you.  Look at your role in the situations where you were disappointed, what behaviors stood in your way of success?

Look at both of the timelines and compare them.  It’s likely that you’ll see similar incidences that have lead to a similar emotional reaction from you.

Identify the beliefs that were falsely and unfairly created in your childhood.  Write them down, and then, on a separate piece of paper, write a letter apologizing to your inner child.

Create new authentic beliefs that will embrace and empower you as a whole person, write these down.  What actions could you take that would back up your new belief system?  This is essentially a deprogramming process and it will take time as well as repetition and patience.  As children we learned that when we heard something often enough, that we became to accept it, use that knowledge to your advantage!  Throw out the timeline of your childhood wounds and let go of the past.  Repeat your new beliefs out-loud as often as you can and practice new emotional responses!   New beliefs equal new opportunities and you won’t accomplish anything without first believing that you can.

It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen.  Muhammad Ali

Sources; http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/m/muhammadal120238.html#J8TREGybGl9790OR.99,  www.robertbrault.com

I was on a site that sold “special” potions and spells to attract good luck, get rid of evil and the list went on. I was enthralled and couldn’t stop myself from looking.  Then I came across a Hoodoo tradition that uses ritual cleaning to obtain what you desire.  

To attract good fortune (new business, good health, a new lover) simply wash or polish your door using an inwards manner to draw the luck in.

Washing the floor can either draw energy in or, do it in reverse to cleanse any unwanted negativity.  To draw abundance into a home start by washing the front entrance (doorstep included) and work your way back.  Importance seems to be placed on doing this before sunrise, before and without speaking a word.  Then finish it all by setting the washing bucket full of the water, outside to the East where you may empty it.

Bless or charge the cleaning water with your intentions before use and we’ll see the miracle of Dr. Emoto’s research first hand!

You can do the above spiritual cleansing also with a broom, even with a carpet to remove any negative energy.  But why stop at the carpet? One of my children was agitated and I took the broom and mock swept her (didn’t touch her skin) from head to toe to remove the negative energy.  I put a real emphasis on pushing it out through her feet, continued sweeping the energy down the stairs and out the door where I stood for a minute or two seemingly sweeping the air over and down the porch. Of course, being superstitious I then “swept” her sister (who didn’t want to be left out).  I don’t know whether or not it was the distraction (I kept saying, “this is serious, it’s Voodoo, back away, you don’t want that energy to get you!”, novelty or the actual process but it was successful, she was no longer troubled.  It was the most entertaining and effective way to deal a tantrum that I’ve tried thus far.

The common expression “flying off the handle” originated from the broom.  Woman would chase their children out of the kitchen, broom in hand and give the child a swat which caused the straw to fly off the handle (hmmm..;)

A Feng Shui principle belief is that the broom will sweep away your troubles.  In Italy it’s common to sweep out a house with a new broom before moving in.  Many cultures see the broom as good luck.  The great broom, jump it, dance with it, remove evil or draw good luck in- it’s so affordable and has so many uses!

Here’s a link to other Hoodoo traditions http://www.mysticvoodoo.com/hoodoo-voodoo-lore.htm

Sources, http://www.lifeinitaly.com/heritage/superstition.asp, http://www.broomcompany.com/index.php?content=folklore, http://www.compassionatedragon.com/fengshui4.html

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My oldest and I were shopping at a store that has a great policy or so I thought.  If you don’t find what you’re looking for they vow to search their other locations and send it to you for free.  I could just name them but I’m angry and refuse to give them any publicity.

In the past I’ve received excellent service from the staff at the store in question.  I tried on a dress that was the wrong size for me but the only one on the rack.  I stayed in the dressing room and sent my daughter to inquire about another size.  The employee who’s always been outstanding in the past was rude and informed her that was all that they had. There was no offer to check their inventory or call another location as their policy states.

I was shocked.  My daughter had been victim to age discrimination.  The employee didn’t realise that she wasn’t by herself and once we were in line together at the till the employee felt so uncomfortable that she attempted to have a co-worker take over for her.  I couldn’t even look her in the eye and left the store without confrontation.  My inaction only compounded the problem- I see that now.

I had explained to my daughter that what happened was wrong, that she was justified in feeling angry.  Even if she had been shopping by herself she’s just as good as any other customer and deserving of the same level of service. Today I contacted their head office.  After explaining the event and also documenting excellent previous service (to be fair), I asked as to whether their “fast find policy” has an age requirement.  Age discrimination happens to all groups and until more of us speak out nothing’s going to change. 

When someone disrespects someone that we love we must act or we contribute to hurting the individual, not to mention risk damaging the relationship.  Could you respect and love someone who doesn’t respect you, I couldn’t?

How do we demonstrate respect for one another through our human connection? We patiently listen and do unto others as we’d like to be done onto us.  A relationship that lacks respect will not thrive or even survive in my experiences.  We should all demand respect for ourselves and speak out for others when we see an injustice.  I should have respectfully expressed my intolerance for the disrespect at the time it happened and I wish that I had.

If a friend or acquaintance were to insult your best friend, isn’t it a form of betrayal to continue a relationship with them as though nothing was wrong?  Unless my daughter receives an apology I will no longer be shopping there.