Breaking the Imprisonment of Fear
August 17, 2011 in Spirituality
It’s so easy to find ourselves consumed by the current social inequalities, controlling systems and corrupt injustices. ¬†We risk becoming so fearful that we rob ourselves of achieving our full potential to just be happy and live in the moment. ¬†The future is unpredictable and what a gift it is when we accept that we’ll deal with it when it happens. ¬†How do we respect the present by not living in fears of the future? ¬†By trusting and surrendering to taking one day at a time we can cultivate a higher awareness that happiness is a choice, a goal within our reach.
The illusory¬†barriers that fear creates is a self imprisonment that hinders us. ¬†When we lose our focus to fearful thoughts we unintentionally attract more fearful situations and people into our lives. ¬†When we doubt our ability to thrive and succeed we forget that we manifest what we expect not what we desire. Fears powerful limits are only as destructive as we allow them to be.
Kick fear to the curb!
When you find yourself wanting to try something new or change a part of your life but fear stops you, ask yourself what is it that you’re scared of? ¬†Failure, poverty, rejection or criticism? ¬†Is it real fear? ¬†Are you in the midst of it or are you dwelling on the unknown? ¬†Is your life in danger? ¬†It’s estimated that up to 90% of our fears are imaginary. When a fear is not real, self affirmations and meditation can do wonders!
Start by envisioning yourself doing what scares you. ¬†Breath deeply and force your body to relax.
Write down what you fear and why. ¬†Often times, the feared outcome of a situation is not as bad as you feared. ¬†Ask yourself honestly if you’re over-reacting and if you are attempt a different¬†perspective.
If your main concern is the future, think back to a time where you’ve been in an actual crisis. ¬†You got through it and chances are that while you were in it, it didn’t seem so awful. ¬†People are more resilient than they know. ¬†Times might get tough but you’ll be tougher! ¬†Refuse to entertain that unhealthy fear. ¬†You’ll cross that bridge when you get there.
Start confronting your fear in small doses. Scientists call this technique “exposure” and for it to be effective we must expose ourselves to what fears us often, over time it’s been proven to be effective. ¬†For me this meant not rushing to tidy the house before my mom came over the other day. ¬†Toys were all over, the hose was in a mess on the front lawn, papers and other items were all over the kitchen and it was OK. ¬†In the past I would’ve ran like a chicken with their head cut off trying to make it all look perfect. ¬†I’ve unconditioned myself from the thought that a clean house equates a worthy me.
Remember and repeat to yourself that no one’s approval of you matters more than yours! ¬†Nothing worth having comes without some sort of fight! ¬†Life is meant to be exciting, think of the “butterflies in your stomach” feeling with your first crush. ¬†What if you could feel that excited every day because you chose to chase your dreams and take those risks that would lead you to attain your true potential and happiness?
This nation was built by men who took risks – pioneers who were not afraid of the wilderness, business men who were not afraid of failure, scientists who were not afraid of the truth, thinkers who were not afraid of progress, dreamers who were not afraid of action. ~Brooks Atkinson
‚ÄúOften the difference between a successful person and a¬†failure is not one has better abilities or ideas, but the courage that one has to bet on one’s ideas, to take a calculated risk – and to act.‚ÄĚ ¬†Andre Malraux.
Most fears are learned behaviors that have conditioned our minds, influencing the way in which we live our lives. Once we move past the fear, we gift ourselves and others with living a life of wonderful moments that come from the heart.